Four Scientifically Proven Factors for Lasting Love

by celedra

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When asked by researchers, “how in love are you with your partner?” 46 percent of women and 49% of men who had been married for 10 years or more answered “very intensely in love.

This report (1) from the Journal of Social Psychological and Personality Science from Stony Brook University is the result of a survey of 274 couples who also revealed their reasons why they thought their love lasted.

1. Hugging and kissing! Physical affection does more than tell your partner that you care and therefore want to be close. Affectionate physical contact (as well as tone of voice) actually releases oxytocin, called the “cuddle hormone” and is innate within all humans. The study also showed that when there was a general lack of affection, intense love didn’t last. Physical affection was, in fact, reported to be the glue that kept couples together even when they were going through difficult times or challenges within their relationship.

2. Sex! Although frequency of sexual activity was a direct correlation to intensity of love, 25% reported that they were still intensely in love after not having been sexual in the last 30 days.

3. Think positive and be grateful! When we live with someone day in and day out, it’s so easy to take them for granted and forget the very qualities we first saw in them. Every day is a choice to be aware, to appreciate and to acknowledge our partners and cultivate our love.

4. Sharing experiences! Relationships deepen and memories are woven through shared experiences. Stepping out of our ruts and sharing stimulating activities, travel adventures, new ideas or the simple joys of taking walks together or cooking – all strengthen the bond of love and relationship history.

5. Choosing your happiness! Being in a loving, joyous relationship begins with our relationship to ourselves. It is our responsibility to take care of ourselves and our happiness. In other words, to bring forth our best selves. As shown in this survey, it is one part of enjoying a vibrant, engaging and growing relationship.

(1) Journal of Social Psychological and Personality Science.


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